If you were dissatisfied with your high school popularity, you should take a gap year to develop your appearance and social skills.
Resetting the social hierarchy
There are a few times you can reset the social hierarchy: summer between middle school and high school; the time between high school and college; and the time between college and your first job; and, maybe, the months leading up to grad school. After these critical times, the social hierarchy becomes more rigid, which makes significant upward mobility improbable.
The sooner you begin to perceive yourself as high status the greater of an impact it will have an impact on your personality and mental, physical, and emotional health. The time between high school and college is the first time most people have the maturity to develop their appearances and social skills. This is when the Gap Year (GY) comes in.
Why the summer isn’t enough for most people
Depending on where you go to school, the summer between high school and college can be three to four months long, which will be insufficient time for the vast majority of you. Self-improvement takes time because there will be internal and external obstacles.
The biggest internal obstacle is inertia. Most likely, you will want to move from the 50th percentile in high school popularity to 80th percentile in college popularity to be deemed “popular”. Such a shift involves learning new habits such as sophisticated diet, fitness, and grooming habits. The body and mind are inert. It does not want to change. You will fail, lose motivation, but will be resilient. All of this requires time. Hopefully, by officially deferring enrollment (aka taking a GY) you will raise the stakes high enough that you remain motivated throughout.
The biggest external obstacle will be your friends and family. Some will not understand why you want to take a GY. Others will be afraid of you changing. DO NOT engage them when they criticize. Weather it by smiling and saying, “Thank you.” You will be saving your own happiness.
The Social Gap Year Program
In the upcoming weeks, I will be developing a program that will give you a week-to-week, step-by-step program to help you through the year.
By the time you begin college:
You must have a six-pack (requires between 8% to 13% body fat). This is a measurable, visible, and non-negotiable goal.
You must be able to initiate and maintain a 10-minute conversation with peers, to ask for the Facebook/phone numbers, and to invite them to events.